(This is long)
JaG has to be the most hard to please man on earth... Let's see where do i begin? In college Jag was in love with this young lady they where together for three almost... four years, life was for the most part good they lived together, they had two cats, had a little family... JaG was close to graduating and she was only a semester behind... I think he intended on marrying this woman but didn't happen she told him she cheated and all his trust for people went out the window... JaG couldn't fathom loving someone that much ever again... so a few more relationship went by and JaG possibly never got all the way in (by that i mean he was still looking for better) so JaG was the cause of those break-ups...
JaG began to have expectations, HIGH EXPECTATIONS, VERY HIGH EXPECTATIONS... it seemed as if no one could live up to his standards... she had to have the intangibles, pretty eyes(no exceptions), freckles(maybe not but would be nice), pretty smile(definite), nice even body(always),Style(got have it), Class(manners and such)Driven and believes in God(speaks for itself), sense of humor(gotta laugh), Athletic(don't have to be all American but competitive yes), play video games( the Wii is fine), Surprisingly amazing sex or just amazing sex(everybody gotta stay pleased) so on and so forth...
Anyway... moving forward JaG was engaged but it didn't work out they had all kinds of outside forces( her parents, fake baby mom ma's) that hindered that...
then JaG dated the liar that broke off his engagement(a story for another day)... of course that didn't work she lied...
then JaG was alone for a while.. at this point he really narrowed down his options... JaG really had a list of all the things(all of the above plus some) he wanted in his head so Expectations may have been and understatement... but understand at this point JaG was getting kind of lonely... but JaG understood that he would find someone someday...
and he did but that didn't work cause he put some stupid ass disclaimer/expectations up that hindered her from just flowing and being herself so she left...
So we're to the now point... as you can see JaG has struggled to maintain an healthy adult relationship... his expectations have pretty much ruined all so i (Mr. Conscious) decide to make him drop all expectations and responsibilities and just love and let love. I came up with this idea after we finished reading this book called The Shack by William p. Young... it really hit home and JaG and i are learning all over again how to Love without conditions and expectations... now this is a task.... shew!!!
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it's amazing how the most complex things are really so simple at its core...
now first off...i was DYING laughing at you referring to yourself in the 3rd person...so i will follow suit.
jillian thinks JaG thinks to much...but jillian tells JaG this all the time...jillian thinks that there is nothing wrong with having realistic standards (ie..job..self-sufficient..a car...even age standard)...jillian believes that you go to far if something like no freckles becomes a deal breaker...standards are simply guidelines...JaG decides how rigid these lines are/can be...jillian says there is nothing wrong with knowing exactly what you want..but there in lies the challenge...knowing what you TRULY want...shift happens, things change...so JaG can either move with it or be stuck!...jillian looks forward to hearing about this new expectation free JaG...
*sigh*...i dont like talking in the 3rd person lol headache...lol
I too have had giant expectations simply because I think Im worth it. I have spent many years giving a lot of people chances and going on many dates only to cut things off after 1-2 dates because I found something wrong.
I recently gave up on that and settled into the idea that I may never find what Im looking for ...
The minute I did that... I met someone... unexpected & maybe even unwanted at the time but I gotta say Im actually really happy with him thus far and hes made it way past my 3 date cut off lol.
Sometimes letting your expectations & guards down allows you to be open to someone you may have brushed off right away and in my case I would have totally missed out on a fantastic guy..
So you never know ;) No harm in giving this new way of life a try right? Good luck babe
Ms. Jillz- i know i think to much but if i didn't i think i would care less and that's not me i care about most everything... let's see no freckles wont break the deal no conversation will...ha
Far- I'm really moving forward with this if it works which i think it will i will be a verb and not a noun in life.
oh im not saying don't think..im saying don't OVER think....death by thinking...
the saying that our strength is also our weakness comes to mind... :)
This is great, I hope you find a really special lady who makes you very happy cause you deserve it!
good luck with the thinking less and stopping over-analzying...i hope that you find someone that can fall in line with your expectations. I hope all is well...
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