interesting study i read on another blog called"Love Psychology"

preface: this comes from thekimberly.blogspot.com

So today in Psychology we were studying "Love Psychology" and we learned a lot that I thought would be interesting to you all.Okay. So the first thing we studied was that there are two different types and phases of love:
a) "Passionate Love"
b) "Compassionate Love"The Passionate type of love usually lasts between 6-30 months. During this "passionate" stage intense emotions take place. The couple is usually the most "in love" and the feeling is very strong.The next type of love is Compassionate. This type of love can be present during the beginning of a relationship but in order for a relationship to last Compassionate Love must be present even after the Passionate phase ends. It is very important to realize, understand, and accept the fact that the passionate phase of love WILL COME TO AN END. It is important that you keep the love going by exploring other aspects of a relationship in terms of "living together as a team". Characteristics of "Compassionate love" include being caring and supportive. Other characteristics are being able to trust, communicate, tolerate each other, and share with each other.In order to have a successful long-term relationship a couple must be able to get along, be comfortable, and be relaxed around and with each other.The keys to achieving success in this the couple must:(1) Relax -- Reduce the tension by being positive.(2) Not Fight about Everything -- If you're going to argue about the dishes, keep the argument strictly on the dishes. We as human beings have a tendency to drift the argument to other subjects. Sample Dialogue:Female: You left dishes in the sink again.Male: I was going to wash them when I woke up from my nap, I had a long day.Female: You always have long days. I'm always lonely at home. You're never home. You're never here for me.Male: That's because you don't give me a reason to want to be here for you.Note: Studies show it is also not a good idea to argue when you or the other person is hungry, heh. This can lead to a bigger argument since that person will already be agitated and already irritated.(3) Not Talk about Everything -- Keep some things to yourself. Not everything has to be said. Sample Dialogue:Female: So, how was your day at work today hunny?Male: My day went well. The secretary was flirting with me again. But other than that my day was wonderful.Obviously you can see that this would lead to more problems.(4) Hold on Loosely -- Remember that everyone needs space. It's as simple as that.(5) Not to fully let go of the Money -- Whoever controls the money tends to control the relationship. It's important to make sure the money is managed properly and that you are familiar about where it is going. Over 60% of divorces end because of financial issues.I'm not into the whole love thing at the moment, but it's good for future references.Later Readers,Kimberly M.